Assalamu'alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh.

When I have to go to my relative's house at Kelantan, the first thing that always come into my mind is, "Ah, I have to face those nonsense again," 

These words hurts me like there is no end. Maybe I am the only one facing this every time I went visiting my relatives or it is just that nobody wanted to voice out their opinion in this case. Just as you all know, I am the type of girl that do not prefer to stay and work in the kitchen, but instead, working on my writing and photography. Of course, I do help out in the kitchen, not often though, because, for some reason, people just don't call me for help even though I tried to help voluntarily. I can do all those kitchen chores by myself. Yes, I really can. But, when there are just too many old grown-up women in the house (Oh God, I just have to say this. And, I do not mean it in a bad way, peasants!), everything just got done by itself. Cooking, cleaning, etc.--- I could not even find what I can do to help out and play my role as a ******* "anak dara". 

"Malas"--- I think that word is not the right word to describe me just because I had to refuse to help out in the kitchen due to other important works that only I alone can manage it. It is not that often that I refuse to help, you self-proclaimed hardworking humans. Plus, saying that I am not "anak dara" just because I cannot properly work in the kitchen is really unfair. Never even once in Islamic teaching I have ever heard that you are not a ******* virgin "anak dara" just because you do not work in the kitchen. It is a fact that kitchen chores are for both women and men to do and it is an obligatory for men to help out in the kitchen if they know that women that are working in the kitchen need it. Men are not supposed to sit in comfy and complain about what served food does not suit their ******** taste to women who have worked hard to serve the house. 

My ability and interest is more towards arts in writing and photography and kitchen chores is not really to my liking (but, of course, I still do it even though I don't like it). And, yes, in case of taking family picture and big events, I am the one holding the responsibility in the house. But, for some reason or another, they cannot see how much I have put my ability to great use for their own sake and all they know about me is that I am not a ******** "anak dara" because I am "malas" enough to do kitchen chores.

I have a dream to work outside the house and travel around the world to gain knowledge a lot more and this is one of the reasons as to why I am sharpening my ability in writing and photography. I want to be a freelance journalist and spread true information to the world and help out the people in need. Yes, in Islam, women are supposed to work in the house and fulfill their husband's needs, but it is permissible if they want to go out to work or gain knowledge with the condition not with the intention to show off their physical charms and beauty. I really love this fact. But, mindset orang kampung Melayu zaman sekarang kebanyakannya masih mengekalkan cara zaman jahiliah dulu. "Tak sopanlah anak dara keluar rumah. Baik duduk rumah buat kerja dapur. Kan lagi bagus," says those people when it is still like 10 hours before Maghrib. I am so sorry to say this, but I see that as a penindasan to women nowadays. I know that people are just saying that for women's own safety, but saying "tak sopan" when we go outside is unfair to all women who want to work outside for the sake of their own living and their family's, even for the world's. In my opinion, that is only applicable to those who go out with the intention that is not permissible in Islam. 

Anyway, disturbing my roommates sleeping at 1 until 2 in the morning updating this blog is quite rude, so I have to finish it here. I really hope that people nowadays really know and put it to concern on what Islam really taught us in our daily life. They just do not realize what kind of mindset they are using when teaching the growing youngsters today and I'm worried that those kind of teachings will last until the last generation on Earth -___- Allah dah bagi akalkan? Fikirkanlah sendiri yang selebihnya berdasarkan Al-Qur'an dan Hadis. Bukannya nak cakap diri ni dah sempurna, tapi dah jadi kewajipan untuk mengingatkan antara satu sama lain, kan? Jadi, harap maklum dan fahamkan. Just so you know, I am noting this in my mind too. Assalamu'alaikum. 

Assalamu'alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh.

When I have to go to my relative's house at Kelantan, the first thing that always come into my mind is, "Ah, I have to face those nonsense again," 

These words hurts me like there is no end. Maybe I am the only one facing this every time I went visiting my relatives or it is just that nobody wanted to voice out their opinion in this case. Just as you all know, I am the type of girl that do not prefer to stay and work in the kitchen, but instead, working on my writing and photography. Of course, I do help out in the kitchen, not often though, because, for some reason, people just don't call me for help even though I tried to help voluntarily. I can do all those kitchen chores by myself. Yes, I really can. But, when there are just too many old grown-up women in the house (Oh God, I just have to say this. And, I do not mean it in a bad way, peasants!), everything just got done by itself. Cooking, cleaning, etc.--- I could not even find what I can do to help out and play my role as a ******* "anak dara". 

"Malas"--- I think that word is not the right word to describe me just because I had to refuse to help out in the kitchen due to other important works that only I alone can manage it. It is not that often that I refuse to help, you self-proclaimed hardworking humans. Plus, saying that I am not "anak dara" just because I cannot properly work in the kitchen is really unfair. Never even once in Islamic teaching I have ever heard that you are not a ******* virgin "anak dara" just because you do not work in the kitchen. It is a fact that kitchen chores are for both women and men to do and it is an obligatory for men to help out in the kitchen if they know that women that are working in the kitchen need it. Men are not supposed to sit in comfy and complain about what served food does not suit their ******** taste to women who have worked hard to serve the house. 

My ability and interest is more towards arts in writing and photography and kitchen chores is not really to my liking (but, of course, I still do it even though I don't like it). And, yes, in case of taking family picture and big events, I am the one holding the responsibility in the house. But, for some reason or another, they cannot see how much I have put my ability to great use for their own sake and all they know about me is that I am not a ******** "anak dara" because I am "malas" enough to do kitchen chores.

I have a dream to work outside the house and travel around the world to gain knowledge a lot more and this is one of the reasons as to why I am sharpening my ability in writing and photography. I want to be a freelance journalist and spread true information to the world and help out the people in need. Yes, in Islam, women are supposed to work in the house and fulfill their husband's needs, but it is permissible if they want to go out to work or gain knowledge with the condition not with the intention to show off their physical charms and beauty. I really love this fact. But, mindset orang kampung Melayu zaman sekarang kebanyakannya masih mengekalkan cara zaman jahiliah dulu. "Tak sopanlah anak dara keluar rumah. Baik duduk rumah buat kerja dapur. Kan lagi bagus," says those people when it is still like 10 hours before Maghrib. I am so sorry to say this, but I see that as a penindasan to women nowadays. I know that people are just saying that for women's own safety, but saying "tak sopan" when we go outside is unfair to all women who want to work outside for the sake of their own living and their family's, even for the world's. In my opinion, that is only applicable to those who go out with the intention that is not permissible in Islam. 

Anyway, disturbing my roommates sleeping at 1 until 2 in the morning updating this blog is quite rude, so I have to finish it here. I really hope that people nowadays really know and put it to concern on what Islam really taught us in our daily life. They just do not realize what kind of mindset they are using when teaching the growing youngsters today and I'm worried that those kind of teachings will last until the last generation on Earth -___- Allah dah bagi akalkan? Fikirkanlah sendiri yang selebihnya berdasarkan Al-Qur'an dan Hadis. Bukannya nak cakap diri ni dah sempurna, tapi dah jadi kewajipan untuk mengingatkan antara satu sama lain, kan? Jadi, harap maklum dan fahamkan. Just so you know, I am noting this in my mind too. Assalamu'alaikum.